Throughout your therapy journey you’ll have high and lows like anything else. but what happens when you think it’s time to leave therapy? There are many levitate as well as illegitimate reasons to stop seeing yoru therapist. notice which you identify with and take notes in the space below.
- pessismism: you feel unconfident in yoru ability to deal with the challenges that brought you in, not confident in self or therapist to all it off- important time to chat to therapist
- stalled progress- this is a normal art of therapy if you feel like you aren’t getting anywhere talk about it, you might be able t ID what’s blocking you and redieect the treatment or decide on takin ga constructive break. lots of people take a small break from therapy to see how they’ve grown, what they’ve learned, and how they adapted. you can have a set return date to check in
- avoiding issues- y
You’ve talked around and around a painful issue. Your therapist has encouraged you to finally address it. You’re scared. Rather than deal with the fear, you decide to drop out of treatment. But confronting the issue is exactly what you need to do if you are to heal. Talk to your therapist about how best to go about it without putting you into the teeth of your worst fears.
LEGIT REASONS TO STOP
- success: if your
goals have been met and you feel you’ve learned the skills necessary to do this on an ongoing basis, and the regular sessions are no longer needed to reinforce these principles. You know that you aren’t perfect. No one is. But you feel that you have what you need to go forward in your life, imperfections and all. You and your therapist agree that you’ve used therapy well and it’s time to move on. You understand that if sometime in the future you need a “tune up”, you can return.
- mismatch: rapport, expertise, discomfort with model- you might like the therapist but dislike their methods. if you feel you won’t be able to reach our goals with the current therapist due to personalist conflicts, expertise mismatch, or discomfort with their therapy model it may be time to have a conversation with your therapist.
If it becomes clear that the therapist doesn’t have the tools necessary to help the client with their issues, the therapist should make a referral to another clinician who can help.
- practical reasons- finances, travel, etc.
Talk it over. If you still need therapy, our therapist may be able to offer less expensive options or may have some ideas about how to manage other practical concerns.
- therapist misbehavior:
- something feels wrong; if you feel like youre being exploited, your
therapist ahs misbehaved, or any boundaries were violated- make the next session your last one. Tell your therapist you don’t feel safe and/or competently served and let them know this is your last session. If the violations are extreme or causing harm look into telling their boss or alerting the licensing board. Like physicians, therapists are ethically bound to “do no harm” in their therapy, and if you’re suffering harm there are avenues to stop the harm and find better treatment. . it’s your time and your dime, you can have closure in person or opt into an email or voicemail.
it is more supportive of the work you’ve done to schedule a last session. A termination session is the opportunity to sum up the work you’ve done, to give yourself credit for the changes you’ve made, and to outline ways to maintain your progress. When you’ve liked your therapist and feel you’ve done well together, leaving gracefully makes it more possible to go back should you ever feel the need to.
which reasons did you identify with? what will you do about them?